Being Gay..Do we really accept it?

Times have come a long way. By this I mean now a days you turn on the tube and find stuff on like "The L Word" (on showtime) showing nothing but lesbian activity, all before 10:00pm, so this means that our kids are still up. And if anybody is like me, my child has children have cable in there room.(luckily I have a filter on the t.v's) Why do we,especially in the black community, tend to frown on the man whom is gay but we accept or should I say don't say much about a female being a lesbian? Gay is gay right? So when it come to brothers being down low or coming out of the close, we are on the phone with the next person running our mouths. But when a sista comes out the closet and she's probably been gay longer that her male counter part, we say she is experimenting or she's been in a trouble relationship. Why are we(not just black people) so hypocritical?